Feeling appreciated is one of our basic needs as human beings, both in our personal and professional relationships. We want to have our efforts acknowledged and not taken for granted – be it as members of a team, a family, or a community. Many relationships are not functioning at their highest potential because one person does not feel appreciated and the other person has no idea why. Just as the simple word “Yes” has very different meanings in different cultures, appreciation can be expressed and experienced in many different ways. As a mediator, I often translate for individuals and organizations who do not speak the same language of appreciation. For one person, “Thank You” may be spelled as a number – in the form of a salary raise or an expensive gift. For another person, “Thank You” may be spelled in words – in the form of public praise, an award, or an eloquent letter of gratitude. For yet another person, monetary or symbolic recognition may be meaningless, and “Thank You” needs to be spelled in action – respectful communication, sensitivity to special needs, consideration for someone’s wellbeing, or simply time spent together. Learning how someone spells “Thank You” often makes the difference in whether a personal or business relationship withers or thrives. What is your language of appreciation?